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Wednesday, August 15, 2012

WTF Wednesday: Is this seriously what our 20's is suppose to be like?

WTF Wednesday took awhile to come to me today...

Its been a relatively uneventful week, and I'm shocked that its already Wednesday and I haven't wanted to violent beat my head against the wall while pulling my hair out in clumps. I suppose that's all I can really ask for, right?

So, I was really busy at work today, thus this blog is going up mega late. I'm in the middle of new hires and outsourcing projects and launching a new line of business, so basically I'm up to my ears in massive amounts of stress. So much actually that I've been having really horrendous nightmares for the past few weeks, which is obviously not helping the stress level, considering I now run on 2-3 hours of sleep and alternate spending the rest of the night playing Uno on my Kindle or reading trashy romance novels that will never replace the void of the 50 Shades of Gray series.

While on a conference call today, I was simultaneously gchatting to five of my close friends who were simultaneously bitching about the same thing: being miserable and in the mid-twenties. All my friends have recently or will soon be turning 25 (including myself), so the quarter life crisis' are in full force.

Two of my very dear friends (I just wrote 'fridays' instead of 'friends', we know where my mind is) are big shots in the finance/accounting field. God bless them because I could never bother taking all those tests and memorizing all that crap. My liberal arts degrees primed me well for my business as a schmooze and overall bullshit artist, but I seriously have mad respect for these ladies and their careers. Anyways, they were complaining about essentially the same exact thing--- working 60+ hour weeks, lack of sleep, no one understands, and its never going to get better-- its going to get worse. Well, that sucks. There's lots of reasons they can't get out of it either. Too much invested; expensive NYC leases, helicopter parents, mortgages to pay, loans to pay back, etc. I get all of that, but what is your life besides a big old paycheck then?

Seriously, these girls are making ballin' cash, but if you can't live life and enjoy it, what is even the point? I know last year, before I moved to Phoenix, I wasn't living life at all. I worked and slept, that's pretty much the extent...and I was depressed. I woke up with the same feeling of dread in the pit of my stomach every single day. I get what they're feeling, and I can't say I don't feel the same down and out thing here and there. 

Is this really what being in our mid twenties has come to? We're educated, we're career women, we're doing it all just like we were suppose to...but what do we really have at the end of the day? No boyfriends, 20 pounds heavier than we were in college, and frickin' miserable.

My boss always says, "If you feel miserable or upset, its your fault because only you are responsible for your own feelings". When my boss says that to me, it practically makes me teary eyes because it sounds so mean, but its true. Back in January, I moved to Phoenix and took charge of my own happiness. Maybe it didn't work out the exact way I expected, but it certainly challenged me to find happiness in all the things in my life I can control.

While in the midst of these conversations, my sorority sister and very dear friend, Nicole, and I were bitching about our less than incredible Match.com experiences. She also sent me this really amazing article called "21 More Things I've Learned in My 20's". 

It reminded me that, yes, this miserable mid twenties funk is suppose to be happening to us, and yes, there are plenty of little things we can do to combat this and change our futures. I know all this shit is going to work itself out amazingly for myself and my friends...it just going to take some hard work and tough decisions to make it happen. So, folks, I leave you with my list of 10 things I've Learned before Hitting Mid-20's.

10 things I've Learned before Hitting My Mid-20's

  1. Eating and drinking like you did in college will catch up. Fitness and healthy eating is way cooler to talk about at this age.
  2. People come into your life for a reason. Even if they leave before you want them to, they taught you something in the meantime.
  3. If you want to talk to that cute guy across the bar, go do it. You'll regret it if you don't.
  4. Being happy doesn’t mean never being sad. (My favorite advice from the above article)
  5. Sometimes paying a premium for convenience and comfort is absolute worth it.
  6. Live comfortable, but frugal for now. Good credit is needed for a lot of things in life coming.
  7. Going places, doing new things and experiencing new culture will make you richer in life than any job could ever.
  8. Only you can change your circumstances. Playing the victim card only works so long.
  9. Men come and go, but your girlfriends are the ones you need to focus on keeping a long time.
  10. Love without reservations, give without expectation and laugh without a care who's watching.

Wednesday words of wisdom from me. Take it or leave it, but I'm making a better effort to practice what I preach every single day.